Jumped to Conclusions

Yesterday's doctor appointment did not go as I imagined in my head. First off, the teacher did not complete or give me any documentation.  Apparently, she just sent the email to the principal the night before. She was thinking she needed approval to RE-SEND me emails, and notes of behavior.  So.... then when I went to the Dr.  I was that parent, the one that is just requesting medication with no proof other than just my word.

I love my doctor because he is so old school. We have HMO yet he will call to make sure the kids are ok, or always try to take us even if he can't.  I had a feeling going to see him could result with his uneasiness in my request for my child to be evaluated for ADHD.  I began listing all the reasons, and ways its effecting his school, sports, and home life.  I also told him about the threats of harming himself that he is saying, the loss of his self-confidence.

His main question was how is his school work? Is he completing and maintaining? I told him that my child is very intelligent, it's not a matter of him falling behind in grades, he keeps up. However, he is bored in class. Yells out answers, after time after time reminding, easily frustrated, shuts down and refuses to do work, losing friends, and now is speaking to the school psychologist.  His response.... I don't think your child has ADHD, he's really smart.  I think your child is D-E-P-R-E-S-S-E-D.  My respnose: What does my child have to be depressed about? A lot of kids with ADHD are really smart!  Apparently the pursuit of happiness, was his reason for depression, the doctor said.  I wanted to cry he said we need to see a psychologist or psychiatrist.  SERIOUSLY?! So in the meantime when he  is jumping out of moving vehicles, hitting, and threating. I'm suppose to do what??

I met with the principal and explained to her that I gave the teacher a week to provide documentation to help me assist my child.  That since I had no proof, my doctor had nothing to really go off of.  We are having a full meeting next week. I had asked her previously to challenge my child and she told me to buy the higher grade textbook and I do it. I do challenge at home... So fustrated and lost.

I do think my child still has ADHD, I was ok with medicating for ADHD if needed.  However, I don't feel that ok with medicating for Depression.  I don't think my kid is depressed.  He is so remorseful after his fits, he can't control his anger. He's not mopping around.... For once, I don't know what to do.. Do I see another doctor?