Yesterday's doctor appointment did not go as I imagined in my head. First off, the teacher did not complete or give me any documentation. Apparently, she just sent the email to the principal the night before. She was thinking she needed approval to RE-SEND me emails, and notes of behavior. So.... then when I went to the Dr. I was that parent, the one that is just requesting medication with no proof other than just my word.
I love my doctor because he is so old school. We have HMO yet he will call to make sure the kids are ok, or always try to take us even if he can't. I had a feeling going to see him could result with his uneasiness in my request for my child to be evaluated for ADHD. I began listing all the reasons, and ways its effecting his school, sports, and home life. I also told him about the threats of harming himself that he is saying, the loss of his self-confidence.
His main question was how is his school work? Is he completing and maintaining? I told him that my child is very intelligent, it's not a matter of him falling behind in grades, he keeps up. However, he is bored in class. Yells out answers, after time after time reminding, easily frustrated, shuts down and refuses to do work, losing friends, and now is speaking to the school psychologist. His response.... I don't think your child has ADHD, he's really smart. I think your child is D-E-P-R-E-S-S-E-D. My respnose: What does my child have to be depressed about? A lot of kids with ADHD are really smart! Apparently the pursuit of happiness, was his reason for depression, the doctor said. I wanted to cry he said we need to see a psychologist or psychiatrist. SERIOUSLY?! So in the meantime when he is jumping out of moving vehicles, hitting, and threating. I'm suppose to do what??
I met with the principal and explained to her that I gave the teacher a week to provide documentation to help me assist my child. That since I had no proof, my doctor had nothing to really go off of. We are having a full meeting next week. I had asked her previously to challenge my child and she told me to buy the higher grade textbook and I do it. I do challenge at home... So fustrated and lost.
I do think my child still has ADHD, I was ok with medicating for ADHD if needed. However, I don't feel that ok with medicating for Depression. I don't think my kid is depressed. He is so remorseful after his fits, he can't control his anger. He's not mopping around.... For once, I don't know what to do.. Do I see another doctor?
Friday, April 18, 2014
Wednesday, April 16, 2014
A new journey
Life, God, the universe... whatever is that you want to call it has handed my family a new journey. A new path of discovery or self-reflection. I just got done meditating can you tell, I'm still in my bubble. I have been meditating for a couple of years now. I always meditated as a teenager, it was something my father taught me in junior high. The peace, and balance I feel is nothing that you can find elsewhere. The last year I have been on a spiritual journey of reflecting on my spiritual life. Trying to find my balance of my belief in God, Native American spirituality, and meditation. I have come to find it, yet still go through trails, that is the purpose of life. Or so they say? All the books say the same thing no matter what trail you are in, it's to grow you spiritually, to help you get to the next level. Don't you wish they would just tell you what to do, what to be on the look out for. I do.. like ok we have grown through understanding love, lets move too patience, an instruction book on life. As we all know though, it doesn't work that way. WISH IT DID! WISH IT DID!!
A quick note, I fell off the meditation wagon for awhile but, this new 21-day meditation with Deepak Chopra and Oprah (yes, I said OPRAH) has really been helpful. It's about finding your flow. Today's focus was on your strength within.
I debated to write this post but, it has been crazy lately and this is my out. So much is going through my mind for the last week or so. Let's just start writing and let it flow... M (this is S's biological brother) has been my baby since he was 2. He is all boy, he started talking a little late but other than that has been on track developmentally. He is so smart, so smart. Super athletic and very loving. He is again, just all boy. He can't sit on my couch, because he doesn't stay still. Is always, I mean always hungry, very stubborn, very funny too, and will always do that one thing just because he wants too know what will happen. He is my baby boy, and I love him so much. The teachers always speak volumes about how smart he is. However, lately things have been changing just this last year. Pick up time usually involves a conference of some kind with his teacher.
The stubbornness has grown, talking back more, anger issues have become more so (we went to counseling before), started seeing the school psychologist, sportsmanship he's just not focused, refuses to do work in class, disciplining (time-outs, grounding, etc...) don't seem to work. Just yesterday I had to carry him to my car to go to school and leave him in the office because he wouldn't put his shoes on. Some how in the morning he wasn't getting his way, so he just shut down.
I know kids act up but this is something more. This kid has had anger management classes, I have taken away all sugar and gluten-free, the tools for him to use have been given to him, he is really smart so it shouldn't be a problem. It is though.... it's not working, nothing is and I feel that I am losing my sweet, athletic loving boy. He's making threats on hurting himself physically, running away, hating himself. His self-confidence from a SUPER CONFIDENT boy is disappearing. When he acts up I'm not even yelling just saying how much I love him. Yet, he still continues on too try to stir me up. It's not working though... With all that summary we have decided to have him tested for ADHD (attention deficit hyperactive disorder).
Now Aspergers, I have covered. S is doing great ( knock on wood)... homeschooling and diet changes she is excelling. Then life decided too hand me a new one. ADHD, what the #$&^&*^ is this? I have done my research and am an educator. I am familiar with working (at work) with children like this. However, now at home it's created a whole another environment. I'm not mad, I"m just confused. I am thinking SERIOUSLY!! Aspergers and ADHD!!! It's enough being one type of therapist 24 hours a day and now I need to learn and become a different one.
I have given up college, stopped working five days a week. I lvoe being a mom and wouldn't change my life for anything. My soul purpose in this world is my children. I never regret adopting S and M, never the LOVE that I have for them is the same that I have for my other biological children. Unless you have adopted you quite can't explain this.
I havent given into my bubble, I have been trying to wrap my head around this. I honestly don't know what too feel. I have to admit though that for some strange reason this is harder for me to accept then S's Aspergers. I think it's the connotation that ADHD has. I won't be shouting this from the roof tops or telling all the family (unless they read this). I will be taking one step at time.
It's heart wrenching to hear your child yell ways to hurt himself. To beg to end it all... I have read that this is a sign and that things will be get better. My baby is only seven and has the whole future ahead to have all his dream come true. We will make it over this mountain.
If you have read this and are a friend or family member, please don't pity party me. Just understand if I'm not quite focused on general life, I'm trying to get through ours with all the LOVE, PATIENCE and UNDERSTANDING that I can have.
A quick note, I fell off the meditation wagon for awhile but, this new 21-day meditation with Deepak Chopra and Oprah (yes, I said OPRAH) has really been helpful. It's about finding your flow. Today's focus was on your strength within.
I debated to write this post but, it has been crazy lately and this is my out. So much is going through my mind for the last week or so. Let's just start writing and let it flow... M (this is S's biological brother) has been my baby since he was 2. He is all boy, he started talking a little late but other than that has been on track developmentally. He is so smart, so smart. Super athletic and very loving. He is again, just all boy. He can't sit on my couch, because he doesn't stay still. Is always, I mean always hungry, very stubborn, very funny too, and will always do that one thing just because he wants too know what will happen. He is my baby boy, and I love him so much. The teachers always speak volumes about how smart he is. However, lately things have been changing just this last year. Pick up time usually involves a conference of some kind with his teacher.
The stubbornness has grown, talking back more, anger issues have become more so (we went to counseling before), started seeing the school psychologist, sportsmanship he's just not focused, refuses to do work in class, disciplining (time-outs, grounding, etc...) don't seem to work. Just yesterday I had to carry him to my car to go to school and leave him in the office because he wouldn't put his shoes on. Some how in the morning he wasn't getting his way, so he just shut down.
I know kids act up but this is something more. This kid has had anger management classes, I have taken away all sugar and gluten-free, the tools for him to use have been given to him, he is really smart so it shouldn't be a problem. It is though.... it's not working, nothing is and I feel that I am losing my sweet, athletic loving boy. He's making threats on hurting himself physically, running away, hating himself. His self-confidence from a SUPER CONFIDENT boy is disappearing. When he acts up I'm not even yelling just saying how much I love him. Yet, he still continues on too try to stir me up. It's not working though... With all that summary we have decided to have him tested for ADHD (attention deficit hyperactive disorder).
Now Aspergers, I have covered. S is doing great ( knock on wood)... homeschooling and diet changes she is excelling. Then life decided too hand me a new one. ADHD, what the #$&^&*^ is this? I have done my research and am an educator. I am familiar with working (at work) with children like this. However, now at home it's created a whole another environment. I'm not mad, I"m just confused. I am thinking SERIOUSLY!! Aspergers and ADHD!!! It's enough being one type of therapist 24 hours a day and now I need to learn and become a different one.
I have given up college, stopped working five days a week. I lvoe being a mom and wouldn't change my life for anything. My soul purpose in this world is my children. I never regret adopting S and M, never the LOVE that I have for them is the same that I have for my other biological children. Unless you have adopted you quite can't explain this.
I havent given into my bubble, I have been trying to wrap my head around this. I honestly don't know what too feel. I have to admit though that for some strange reason this is harder for me to accept then S's Aspergers. I think it's the connotation that ADHD has. I won't be shouting this from the roof tops or telling all the family (unless they read this). I will be taking one step at time.
It's heart wrenching to hear your child yell ways to hurt himself. To beg to end it all... I have read that this is a sign and that things will be get better. My baby is only seven and has the whole future ahead to have all his dream come true. We will make it over this mountain.
If you have read this and are a friend or family member, please don't pity party me. Just understand if I'm not quite focused on general life, I'm trying to get through ours with all the LOVE, PATIENCE and UNDERSTANDING that I can have.
Tuesday, April 15, 2014
Nutrition
I just checked my stats before I started writing today and I'm at a little over 2,000 hits. I know that some blogs receive that on a daily. However, I never write with the intention or plan of being read so it is sort of cool that someone out there is reading it. I hope that in some way I am helping you. If anything it's nice to know that your not alone.
I've been meaning to write this post for about a month but, I wasn't sure where what I felt about it. About a month ago, I took S to the Center for Advanced Medicine, in Encinitas. They did a test on her to find out what she was allergic too. I believe the test was called a NAET test, it is based on energy levels. I know it sounds sort of out there. I had told them about S having Aspergers and they said that they were familiar with the diet that she should need, however they were going to run the test to see if she was allergic to anything. The reason that I took her was because we have been suffering digestion issues and bathroom issues for a long, I mean a long time. I took her to our regular doctor who gave us a laxative, and Miralax however, this did not help.
I had read that children with Aspergers tend to have digestion issues and allergic to Gluten as well as Lactose. Yes, these are the things that came up in her test as well as peanuts, corn, and pineapple. They told me that I need to build S's healthy fats (avocado, oils, and butter). The healthy fats help, to build insulators around her neurons, with her insulators being built that will help her fits, and fustration. Kids apparently can never have enough healthy fats, it's ok for them to eat butter for any of us actually.
I decided to give this a try, to change her diet. She is having a healthy breakfast of eggs (which she hates!) and avocado, lots of veggies with oil (no ranch), and no Lactose or any cow milk products. The result has been great!! Is it a cure all - NO WAY!!! She is having less tantrums, her frustrations she is handling a lot better (cries but is trying to control). Her cognitive, is still the same. I didn't except a miracle. And I don't think my daughter needs to be CURED! Her digestion was why I went and that has been doing great.
If you decide to go the diet route, keep an open mind. Don't try to CURE them, they are made special and wonderful. Be open, to whatever happens for us it's helped for others who knows.
I've been meaning to write this post for about a month but, I wasn't sure where what I felt about it. About a month ago, I took S to the Center for Advanced Medicine, in Encinitas. They did a test on her to find out what she was allergic too. I believe the test was called a NAET test, it is based on energy levels. I know it sounds sort of out there. I had told them about S having Aspergers and they said that they were familiar with the diet that she should need, however they were going to run the test to see if she was allergic to anything. The reason that I took her was because we have been suffering digestion issues and bathroom issues for a long, I mean a long time. I took her to our regular doctor who gave us a laxative, and Miralax however, this did not help.
I had read that children with Aspergers tend to have digestion issues and allergic to Gluten as well as Lactose. Yes, these are the things that came up in her test as well as peanuts, corn, and pineapple. They told me that I need to build S's healthy fats (avocado, oils, and butter). The healthy fats help, to build insulators around her neurons, with her insulators being built that will help her fits, and fustration. Kids apparently can never have enough healthy fats, it's ok for them to eat butter for any of us actually.
I decided to give this a try, to change her diet. She is having a healthy breakfast of eggs (which she hates!) and avocado, lots of veggies with oil (no ranch), and no Lactose or any cow milk products. The result has been great!! Is it a cure all - NO WAY!!! She is having less tantrums, her frustrations she is handling a lot better (cries but is trying to control). Her cognitive, is still the same. I didn't except a miracle. And I don't think my daughter needs to be CURED! Her digestion was why I went and that has been doing great.
If you decide to go the diet route, keep an open mind. Don't try to CURE them, they are made special and wonderful. Be open, to whatever happens for us it's helped for others who knows.
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